The Easter Vigil

Penn Family Memorial at North Lawn Cemetery, Utica, Ohio

The morose truth that we learn to forget is that death is our common experience.  This forgetting is a kind of saving grace in our day to day life. But death is at the core of our being.  It is exposed at extreme intervals and faced when someone we love is taken from us.  The grief is not only overwhelming but contains a kind of personal expectation.

I remember my father's funeral.  The family was gathered in the little room adjacent to the casket and just out of sight from the other mourners.  It was quiet as we waited for the service to begin.  One of my aunts turned to her sister and whispered "I wonder who will be next."  The words, though quiet, echoed in my heart.  What an ominous thought!  She was referring to herself, her sisters and brother...my dear aunts and uncle.  Two had passed before my Dad.  Five remained.  Someone would be next.  One day they would all be gone.  And of course, it came to pass. The emptiness that follows death seems unbearable.  We have been left alone and abandoned.  The time that follows the ceremonies and burial are dark.  We are numbed and seem to be just going through the motions.  There is little consolation.

These are the experiences of Holy Thursday, Good Friday and the Easter Vigil.  The church enters into death.  We stop our rush to the future and sit in collective sorrow.  We can the imagine the grief, fear and hopelessness of Jesus' family, friends and followers.  We can do this because we too have experienced the death of a loved one.  No one is spared.

It is, however, at the darkest hour on Holy Saturday that the unexpected happens and continues to happen.

The Coming of The Wonderful

The readings for this last Sunday of Advent are a confirmation of the abundance that we have been expecting.  The wonderful is already here.  It was created in our dreams and through our faith and expectations.  That for which we have been longing has arrived.

The excitement that is felt by Elizabeth and Mary as described by Luke in his gospel message is undeniable.  Their joy cannot be contained.  Mary's announcement is received even by the baby in her cousin's womb.  Deliverance is at hand.  Everything that was hoped for is present in the very room where they are gathered. 

The truth of this advent story is the fact of our own lives.  The most wonderful things happen when we give up the doubts and misgivings that we harbor.  Light shines in the darkness.  Day overcomes night.  Want gives way to abundance.  Christmas is coming.  Nothing will stop it.  Love each other, celebrate, dance and join the feast.

Noticing Advent

The Season of Advent is a celebration of the small things. We live in a world in which our focus is on the big, the conspicuous and the newsworthy. The noisy and gregarious grab our attention. Advent is a reminder that the miracles are all around us. We do not wait for some spectacular presentation from God. We take time to appreciate that which we have left un-noticed. We begin to understand that the smallest things are usually the most important representations of hope. What seems to be bigger and better might not actually be so important and are usually just temporary.

It has been demonstrated time and again that God uses the little and insignificant to prove that there are no limits to our lives. There is always the expectation of the wonderful. Advent is a time to not only pay attention to the incredible amount of goodness everywhere, but to expect the announcement of miracles. Watch and listen. We are surrounded by them. The faith in this truth is the foundation of Advent. The longing that we have for deliverance and freedom from want is already answered. Light always overcomes darkness. All that we must do is find a candle.

Waiting For The Wonderful

The period of time before Christmas, known as Advent, is a time of patience, expectation and anticipation.  My life-long best friend calls it "waiting for the wonderful".  The practice of waiting for the wonderful creates an atmosphere of childlike joy in people.  Seasonal music and poems like The Night Before Christmas reminisce about visions of hope and miracles. Decorations and festive gatherings remind us that something extraordinary is coming. We know that abundance, happiness, friends and family are just around the corner. Our waiting takes on a joy of its’ own.

Our eager expectations are always fulfilled if we remain hopeful and keep our eye on the possibilities. We should have learned that good things are coming. Patience toward the waiting, and eagerness for what lies in the future set up an entirely different manner of living. There is always a reason for optimism, hope and opportunity. The dynamic of positive expectation sets up a scenario in which we simply attract great things. Abundance begins to literally fall into our laps as it never did before. Advent is here right now. We can look forward to the realization of our dreams and the coming of our salvation. There is no reason that this should be limited to a seasonal celebration in December.  It is all about waiting for the wonderful.

Self Fulfilling Prophesy

Many people have dampened spirits that contain no expectations. Experiences of disappointment have left them without joyful anticipation of good things. The argument posed is that they will never be let down as long as there is no looking forward to positive outcomes. It is living life in the tradition of Eeyore from A. A. Milne’s Winnie-the-Pooh. One with this attitude is almost but never quite, depressed and melancholic with a dash of pessimism. The demeanor is close to moping while squatting dully at the status quo. There is a mind-set that says “It doesn’t matter what I want because it probably won’t happen anyway.” Just short of a sigh.

I contend that it would be better to experience lots of disappointment than to trudge through the gloomy day of no expectations. There is always something good to anticipate. Bad things will happen. Tough times will come and go. Looking to the positive possibilities, however, will create increased chances of happiness and success. Robert Merton wrote about self-fulfilling prophesy. Belief and behavior are undeniably linked. The “truth” of a situation can actually be altered by the influence of believers. When something good is expected something good is more likely to happen. Our behavior changes and often the outcome transformed.

Why shouldn't we realign our thinking to allow for not only good outcomes, but for outstanding ones?  Why shouldn't we shoot for the stars?  This is how we stretch to excellence.  This is how greatness is achieved.  No more of this fear of the unknown.  No more of this anhedonia.  Do more and expect the best.  Life will regain it's flavor!

The Expectation of Easter

Renewal and new beginnings are among the promises offered by Easter. The most compelling mystery of the season for many of us is the truth of unconditional love. This is a difficult proposition for us to understand because of our continual criticism of self and of others. Even thornier is the challenge that Jesus proposes to "be compassionate as your Father is compassionate". We are forgiven for our transgressions and we are called to forgive in the same measure. Our experience of love from other people has often been conditional and transitory. God's love is neither of these. It is a gift freely given for one and for all. No questions asked.

Henri Nouwen writes: "I am beginning now to see how radically the character of my spiritual journey will change when I no longer think of God as hiding out and making it as difficult as possible for me to find him, but, instead, as the one who is looking for me while I am doing the hiding. When I look through God's eyes at my lost self and discover God's joy at my coming home, then my life may become less anguished and more trusting." (From The Return of The Prodigal Son: A Story of Homecoming)

The spiritual path leads us to a place in which we find ourselves worthy of God's love. It allows us to begin to see ourselves as His beloved child, unblemished as the day we were born. Easter is a time of anticipation and expectation. Not just our anticipation and expectation. We are being anticipated and expected by the Father. He longs to see us coming to Him.