It is easy to find fault with people. We often quickly assess the interior makeup of others by their appearance, a snapshot of behavior or by the opinion of a friend. This determination is usually dismissive and often an attack on the character of the subject of our judgment. These surface observations are overly simplistic and rarely accurate. The problem is that the discussion of other people’s faults has become a popular spectator sport. Tearing people down is considered funny and is often supported by groups of friends. TV even builds entire sitcoms around making fun of others weaknesses.There are consequences for rendering these kinds of verdicts. Our judgments inflict suffering that we rarely get to see. There is none-the-less something that withers and dies when we demean another, not only in them, but in ourselves. We become more arrogant and the subject of our disdain is diminished. There is little possibility that a relationship or friendship might develop. We have probably squandered that opportunity forever. How shallow we can become when we behave in this way! How one dimensional we can become when it evolves into a habit!
Begin anew today. Make a resolution to catch other people being good. Walk away from situations where ridicule is the topic of conversation. Don’t laugh at or make fun of anyone. Take some time with an individual who has been the butt of jokes. Remember what our mothers used to say? Be Nice!
